Some Parenting Advice!

The Look!

Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.  Proverbs 22:6

I like to go to the mall and just sit and watch people!  I think people, their actions and reactions are very interesting.  I have always enjoyed observing life and seeing things that most people miss.  In fact, I have noticed that my oldest daughter Gracie has picked up the same habit/skill!  She often sees things that I miss!  (Younger Eyes!)

One of the things that I have noticed in recent days is how a lot of parents are having a hard time saying “no” to their kids!  I am a parent, so I know how hard it is to say “no” to our kids, but sometime “no” is the right answer! We need to say “no” and make them believe “no” by explaining the reason why and then sticking with it!

Kid’s need to learn “no” and the earlier the better, because life will throw plenty of “no’s” their way.  I’m not suggesting that you say “no” just to say “no”, but I am suggesting that we should be careful about giving in to every whim and wish of our children.  If we are not careful we will raise a generation of spoiled brats that do not have the ability to deal with life when it doesn’t work the way they want it to.

Most parents have lived long enough to discover that life does not always work the way you want it to!  So train your child in the way they should go, by saying “yes” – when it is appropriate, “wait” – when they need to learn the lesson of earning their way and “no” – when they need to learn to grow!

Train them in the way they should go and when they are old they will not depart from it and they will actually, most likely – thank you for it!

4 thoughts on “Some Parenting Advice!”

  1. you are incredibly right.. When we have children, they don’t come with a book of directions. The hardest thing is telling them no and giving them boundaries. This has nothing to do being the children of divorced parents either.. I see it in families where the parents have been together all of their married lives. Love it when parents throw us that divorced card! I do know that kids will play their parents up against one another, so parents have to stay strong together and back each other up! Be on the same page! If you disagree, discuss it behind closed doors, but don’t let them know that they hold the playing card.. We do believe that positive energy will go so much farther then negative energy. I love my children and my step children. Barry does too! We have seen and lived through some horrible things, and family treating us like we don’t belong, but in the end, no means no and it’s for their own well being.. 3 out of 6 have gotten it.. the 3 that are left, will eventually get it as well.. Being a parent can be the hardest and most joyous job at the same time..Sometimes we can feel like complete failures and the next day we’ve seen where they actually get it! All any of us can do is Pray for guidance and strength. forgiveness as well… Thanks MJ for blogging this today.. Glad to know that we aren’t alone!!!!

    1. Life is hard, but God has given us this amazing gift of love to share with one another. Some times the love is soft and gentle and at other times is is hard and rough, but it is always needed and at some point appreciated! Thanks for reading and sharing! G3!

  2. This is a lesson many of us parents have failed at. It is also being read by me just minutes after my daily devotional wher I believe God was speaking to me about this very subject. How do we fix it. we cannot go back in time and reaching out to our children to seek forgiveness helps the parent, but it does not erase the damage our failure has caused. We must to continue to pray for our grown children and continue to reach out to them and never give up. Ops! It starts over again with a second chance to get it right. GRANDCHILDREN!!!!!

    1. From what I hear from most grandparents, it may be even harder to say “no” to grandchildren! And you are right, we can’t give up, even when our children are grown, we must love, be honest and seek to guide and grow them for God’s glory! Thanks for reading and sharing!

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