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The Difference Between Happiness and Joy

We find ourselves so busy and distracted on most days that we miss out on the real blessings of life. We get caught up in the pursuit of a living a fulfilling life by continually seeking moments of happiness and joy, often using these terms interchangeably and missing out on both. It is good to stop every now and then to take a little bit deeper exploration that can reveal some distinct nuances between these emotions, each carrying its own significance in our emotional landscape and our ability to live the blessed life we were created for.

Happiness is often seen as an emotional state characterized by contentment, pleasure, and satisfaction derived from external circumstances or events. Happiness at it’s best is fleeting, dependent on situations, possessions, relationships, or achievements. This transient nature makes happiness vulnerable to fluctuations; it can be attained and lost quickly. Just as quickly as we get up, we can find ourselves right back down, if we are totally dependent upon happiness for our satisfaction and fulfillment.

Conversely, joy transcends those transient moments; it’s an enduring and profound emotion that originates from within. Joy is an inner sense of peace, contentment, and gratitude regardless of external circumstances. It can coexist even amidst hardships, difficulties, or uncertainties. It’s a profound sense of well-being that springs from a deeper connection with oneself, others, or something greater than oneself. Joy is a gift of God to His creation.

While happiness is often a reaction to external stimuli, joy is more intrinsic and often linked to spiritual, emotional, or psychological well-being. Happiness may come and go with life’s ups and downs, but joy provides a stable undercurrent, shaping our outlook on life and opening us to receive the greater blessings that God has for us, regardless of the circumstances and situations of life.

22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, 23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. -Galatians 5:22-23

Understanding the differences between happiness and joy can be life transforming. Pursuing happiness might involve seeking fleeting pleasures, whereas cultivating joy involves nurturing a sense of gratitude, mindfulness, and embracing life’s experiences with acceptance and openness.

The pursuit of happiness is valid, but solely chasing it may lead to a perpetual state of dissatisfaction, as external factors fluctuate. On the other hand, nurturing joy can provide a more stable and profound sense of contentment and purpose.

In essence, both happiness and joy play essential roles in our emotional well being and personal growth. Happiness brings moments of delight and satisfaction in the external world, while joy acts as an internal anchor, providing a deeper and more profound sense of fulfillment and peace.

Finding a balance between both emotions is key to living a fulfilling life. Striving for happiness in everyday experiences while cultivating joy through practices like mindfulness, gratitude, and fostering meaningful connections can create a harmonious blend, which enriches our human experience.

Ultimately, acknowledging and appreciating the differences between happiness and joy allows us to navigate life’s challenges with a more holistic perspective, leading to a life infused with both fleeting moments of happiness and a steadfast sense of inner joy. A life that is worth the living that gives glory to God and brings blessings to all around…

Ten Action Steps To Deal With Heavy Heartedness!

Life is a journey that is filled with moments of joy, triumph, and love, but it can also bring about periods of sadness, grief, and emotional heaviness. When your heart feels burdened, it’s essential to acknowledge those feelings and take proactive steps towards healing and finding the lightness you were created for. In the following pragraphs, we will explore some very practical steps we can take to help ourselves to navigate through the difficult and heavy times of life.

1. ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR EMOTIONS!

The first step towards lightening a heavy heart is recognizing and accepting your emotions. It’s normal to feel sadness, grief, or even anger at times. By acknowledging these feelings, you validate your own experiences and open the door to healing. You have to know the feeling to know why the feeling is there and with this knowledge you will find wisdom in dealing with whatever it is that you have to deal with.

2. PRACTICE SELF COMPASSION!

Be kind to yourself. Treat yourself with the same care and understanding you would offer a close friend. Self-compassion involves acknowledging your pain without judgment and offering yourself support and comfort. We tend to beat up on ourselves and often become our very own worst enemy. Show yourself some love, mercy and grace.

3. SEEK SUPPORT!

Share your feelings with someone you trust, whether it’s a friend, family member, or therapist. Talking about your emotions can provide relief and a fresh perspective. Sometimes, merely expressing what’s on your mind can alleviate some of the heaviness. I have often told folks that I am counseling or coaching that it is important every now and then to “unload the truck”. You were not created to carry everything around with you for always, so unload what you need to, so you can load up with what you really need.

4. ENGAGE IN MINDFUL MEDITATION!

Mindfulness practices, such as meditation, can help you stay present in the moment and reduce stress. Taking time for mindfulness can create a sense of calm, allowing you to process your emotions in a healthier way. I like to refer to this as taking time for SOLITUDE. We need to get quiet, just breathe and learn to enjoy the stillness and silence.

5. EXERCISE AND MOVE YOUR BODY!

Exercise has a profound impact on mental well-being. Engaging in physical activities like walking, jogging, or yoga releases endorphins, which are known as “feel-good” hormones. These chemicals can help alleviate feelings of sadness and promote a sense of well-being. It does not have to be anything hard core, just get up and take a walk outside or take some time to stretch your body out like you used to when you were a kid reaching for the stars.

6. EXPRESS YOURSELF CREATIVELY!

Art, music, and writing can be powerful outlets for processing emotions. Engaging in creative expression allows you to channel your feelings into something tangible, providing a sense of release and relief. God has gifted all of His children with some form of self expression, figure out yours and use it regurlarly.

7. PRACTICE GRATITUDE!

Even during challenging times, there are often small moments of beauty and positivity. Cultivating gratitude by acknowledging and appreciating these moments can shift your perspective and help you find moments of lightness. We often get so distracted by the bad that we fail to appreciate the good. No matter how bad it gets, there is always good. Look for and say thank you for the good, because this redirects your spirit toward God, which is exactly where it needs to be.

8. SET REALISTIC GOALS!

Breaking down your challenges into manageable steps can make them feel less overwhelming. Setting realistic goals and celebrating small achievements can give you a sense of accomplishment and motivation. Figure out what you have to do, make a plan and then do what you can.

9. NURTURE YOUR WELL BEING!

Taking care of your body can have a positive impact on your emotional well-being. Ensure you get enough sleep, eat nourishing foods, and engage in activities that promote relaxation and rejuvenation. Self Care is not a bad thing, it is a necessary thing and if you don’t take care of you, there might not be a you to take care of others.

10. EMBRACE CHANGE AND GROWTH!

Remember that feelings of heaviness are part of the human experience, and they do not define you. In other words: It’s a normal part of life and living. Embracing change and seeking growth through adversity can lead to profound personal development. Do what you can about what you can and then trust God through the rest for His best.

When your heart feels heavy, it’s crucial to remember that you are not alone, and there are ways to find lightness and healing. By acknowledging your emotions, seeking support, and engaging in self-care practices, you can navigate through these difficult moments and emerge stronger and more resilient than ever. Remember, healing is a journey, and it’s okay to take it one step at a time, because your ultimate destination is blessing…

What If You Really Believed?

Not Everyone Has Jesus, But They Can!

It’s not politically correct now a days to talk about Jesus, but it will always be spiritually correct and spiritually correct is more important than any other kind of correctness we can ever achieve. It is possible to know about Jesus and not know Jesus. Knowing Jesus in a personal relationship is what makes the supernatural difference in our life that allows us to have life changing connection with our Creator.

I like to think of life divided into three major areas: Physical, Mental and Spiritual. If we ever hope to take the physical and mental to it’s greatest place, then it will be because we have first worked on developing and strengthening the spiritual part of our life with a relationship with God through Jesus Christ.

This is why we should see Jesus not just as God’s Son and not just as a Savior, but also as a mentor and life coach. When we read the story of Jesus in the Gospels of Matthew, Mark, Luke and John, this is exactly what we see Jesus doing. Jesus is leading, mentoring, guiding, directing, training, teaching his disciple how to live and see life and eternity from a totally different perspective than the rest of the world.

I mean think about it for just a minute: A really good guy through the ministry of life coaching mentored twelve guys and a group of followers for three years and changed the world! The results of Jesus as a LIFE COACH still impact our lives today!

In this was manifested the love of God toward us, because that God sent his only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through him. -1 John 4:9

What could Jesus do with your life if you allowed him to life coach and mentor you through his Church and Word? How would your life look different physically, mentally and spiritually, if you allow the supernatural power of Heaven to flow to and through you? Why do we insist on trying to do this thing called life in our own limited weakness, when we have failed over and over again trying it our way? When are you going to get ego and self out of the way, so that you can discover what really matters? Who could you be and who does God want you to be and will you allow yourself to get there with His help?

These are the questions that matter. These are the questions that will change your life. These are the questions that we need to use to challenge and investigate our way of living. When we ask and answer these questions honestly, then we will see our need to not just know about Jesus, but to know Jesus in a real and personal way. And when we know Jesus in a real and personal way, our life will begin to line up behind his leadership and in his leadership we will find the meaning and purpose that helps us to live a life that is filled with blessing and glory for God…