Approval Addiction!

The Most Wonderful Challenging Time Of The Year!  This is as the song calls it: “The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year!”  It is also the most challenging time of the year!  It seems like there is never enough time to do all of the things that need to be done and there is always something else crying out for our attention!

What’s One Of The Most Difficult Things About Christmas?  There is a lot that is difficult about Christmas!  Besides there not being enough time to do all that has to be done, there is also the challenge of getting that just the right gift for that special someone!  That at first glance does not seem like such a big deal, but for some of us, it is a huge deal, because we want others to approve of us and our choices!

What Is The Big Problem?  Too many of us suffer from Approval Addiction!  That is:  We desperately need what we do or don’t do, to be validated by what other people say and think.  We care way to much about what other people think and we let it make us crazy!  Too many of us get our worth or lack of worth out of what other people think and this causes us to do all kinds of crazy things.

We play to other people and let them control and manipulate us!  We are shaped by all the wrong stuff and often miss our miracle!  We allow other people to run our life that can’t even run their own lives!  We don’t need others approval – we need God’s approval!

We’ve Got Some Serious Work To Do!  You have to decide!  The plain hard truth is:  You can’t keep everybody happy!  It’s impossible and life is too short!  You have a choice to make – you can be a people pleaser or a God pleaser!  Not everyone is going to understand your destiny!  You are the one that has to make a choice about who is going to be happy!  Like it or not, believe it or not – you control your destiny!

In the Scriptures we find a fellow by the name of Joseph, who found himself in a very similar position!  In Matthew 1:18-24, we read:  18 This is how the birth of Jesus the Messiah came about: His mother Mary was pledged to be married to Joseph, but before they came together, she was found to be pregnant through the Holy Spirit. 19 Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly.  20 But after he had considered this, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream and said, “Joseph son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife, because what is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit. 21 She will give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins.”  22 All this took place to fulfill what the Lord had said through the prophet: 23 “The virgin will conceive and give birth to a son, and they will call him Immanuel” (which means “God with us”).  24 When Joseph woke up, he did what the angel of the Lord had commanded him and took Mary home as his wife. 25 But he did not consummate their marriage until she gave birth to a son. And he gave him the name Jesus.

A Few Things To Think ABout:  Joseph had a plan, but his plan got changed!  Joseph had a lot of people telling him what to do!  Joseph had a destiny that God had picked out for him and that’s what he went for!  His life was not easy and the choices he had to make were tough, but ultimately it all boiled down to him deciding that he wanted either what he wanted, others wanted or what God wanted!

Live life long enough and you will find yourself at a similar place!  A place where you have to make the choice to listen beyond all of the other noise, so that you can hear the still small voice of God that is directing you away from the popular and into an amazing destiny that was selected and designed for you by your amazing God!  Don’t give us, don’t give in and never ever settle for anything less that God’s very best!