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Changing Your Change!

So I’m on the road today and I really have not had a chance to sit down and write anything on the blog, but I have a very unofficial goal of trying to post something everyday, so I figured I would pull out my phone and see if I had a little something in my heart I could pump out.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how I spent the whole first half of my life trying to change myself in an attempt to live up to what I thought was everyone else’s expectations. The problem with trying to change ourselves, is that it will almost always leave us disappointed, because there is always going some way, shape or form that the world uses to try and convince us that we need to change ourselves.

“Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.” -James 1:17

The reality is that you are who you are and trying to change who you are will leave you disappointed and frustrated every time. A better way of doing life and working for meaningful change is to change your actions and reactions. When we work to change our actions and reactions, a more authentic version of who we really are begins to show up.

If you stop and think about it, I’m sure you can identify at least three actions that you need to change. You know these action are destructive and costing you more than you want to pay. When we talk about needing to change who we are, we are really distracting ourselves from giving attention to the actions and reactions that need to change in our life and living.

Identify your three actions to change, make a plan on how you will do it and get to work. The changing of your actions will not necessarily change you, but it will allow the real you to emerge and you and others will find that the real you is a true blessing and gift to this world…

Today Is Your Best Day!

Today Is Your Best Day! That’s right, today, not yesterday and not tomorrow. Today, because today is what you’ve got. So many of us miss the blessing of the moment because we are either stuck in the past or worried about the future. Today is what you’ve got, so enjoy today as your best day.

Today Is Your Best Day, Because You Are Here! Right now in this very moment you exist and have opportunity to make this moment whatever you want it to be. If you want it to be happy, it will be happy. If you want it to be sad, it will be sad. This moment is your opportunity to follow the example of your Creator and “create” whatever it is that you desire.

Today Is Your Best Day, Because Yesterday Is Over! Yesterday has already been lived and you cannot live yesterday again. Hopefully, you learned whatever it was that yesterday was trying to teach you, so that you can grow on. Don’t get stuck on yesterday, because it can cause you to miss and waste today and today is your best day.

Today Is Your Best Day, Because God Is Using Today To Prepare You! God is using today to prepare you for whatever it is that He has in store for you and it is always something amazing. Yesterday is the past, tomorrow is the future and today is the present, so accept it as the GIFT that it is and make it your best day yet.

Coorie ten Boom used to say: “God doesn’t have problems, He has plans!” And today is your best day, because whatever comes your way, it’s not a problem, it is just a part of God’s plan to grow you into the kinda of person that makes every day their best day… 🙏🏻

Enjoy The Game!

If life were a football game, then I would guess I am some where between half-time and third quarter. It’s hard to believe that the first half of my life is over with, gone and cannot be relived, but it is and I have to say: I have learned much and realize more clearly than ever before that there is still so much left for me to learn.

There is a lot that we can understand about life, but then there is also a lot that is a mystery. There are some things we are supposed to figure out and learn from and other things that we just need to allow to unfold at their own pace and pleasure.

I like the idea of just allowing things to unfold, because it takes a lot of self imposed pressure off. I don’t have to try so hard to make things work, I just need to get out of the way, enjoy the journey, watch and learn as life does it’s thing.

Not everything is about toil and hard work, sometimes it’s about working smarter, not harder. Who says we have to understand everything? Why do we feel like we have to explain everything away? Why can’t we just be content with saying: “I don’t know???”

Live life long enough and your expectations will be shattered and you will discover that it everything is still going to be okay, because our expectations are often very unreal anyway. We would do well to practice the art of “ALLOWING”. Allow life to be what life is going to be. Stop trying to manipulate, calculate and subjugate life into what you think it should be and simply learn to enjoy allowing life to be whatever it is going to be.

Learn the joy of sitting back and observing life and it’s beauty as it unfolds like a flower revealing the secrets it has hidden away some where deep inside of itself. Shut up, judge less and listen, really listen and you will be amazed at how your mind will open up and allow your heart to be touched by the mystery of life and living…