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Change The Question!

Who am I? That’s a great question and just as soon as I start to answer it, I change and become someone else. I mean think about it – for whatever lifetime you have lived in this human experience, you have lived in an ever changing, continually developing body.

I began this experience with the body of a chubby and if I do say so myself, adorable baby boy. A little later on, I occupied a thin as a rail, blonde hair, blue eyed, big smiling little boy. A little boy who possessed a unique ability to get into stuff a lot quicker than I could get out of it. I eventually developed into a teenager and had an appetite that could never seem to be satisfied, which contributed to a ever changing body. From there I became a young man that always seemed to be engaged it the battle of trying to take off a few pounds. Now a days I am what many would consider middle aged and my body, well, let’s just say it has decided that it will speak for itself.

We spend most of our lives associating who we are with how we look and the great tragedy here is that the old saying is true: “You can’t judge a book by it’s cover!” About the time, we start to get comfortable in one form of our body, another one comes along and takes it’s place and it seems the process begins all over again.

Who am I? Well before I can even try to answer that question, I have to realize and accept that I am not my body, because my body is continually, moment by moment, daily changing. Here’s the really interesting thing: We can let our body shape us or we can shape our body! And which way do you think this is supposed to work? The Bible puts it this way in Ephesians 2:10 ”For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.”

I am learning to just be me, whatever body I am occupying. I told a friend the other day “I am 51 years old, but I feel like I am 25 -30 years old. In my mind, I think like a 30 year old, not like a 50 year old. I remember when I used to think 50 was old, but not now.

So, if I am not my body, then who am I? The “I” that you are looking for is who you really are. It’s who you were created to be. It’s the you that you live with 24 hours a day, seven days a week. The “I” you are looking for is still becoming. Our problem is that we are looking for a completed product and we can’t find it, because we are still in process.

And so here is the good news today – if you can’t find yourself, it means that you are a work in progress. You are still becoming and so the question needs to change from “Who am I?” to “Who do I want to be?” The simple changing of the question is a game changer that sets your focus in the right direction and aligns your life for blessing.

And so I ask you: WHO DO YOU WANT TO BE? the choice truly is yours…

Is It Worth It?

Questions have the ability to be very powerful in our lives if we are willing to use them in the right way. In order for us to use a question in the right way, we must first be willing to take the time to ask and answer the question and this will require some thought, which will cost us some time.

This morning I was thinking about my life and living through the years. I was thinking about some of the successes I have experienced and some of the failures I have survived. I started to think about what was it that helped me to succeed and what was it that caused me to fail? All of this thinking ultimately led me to a place of asking the question in my mind: “IS IT WORTH IT?”

And to be real honest, success or failure, it has all been worth it, because even when I have failed, I have learned something, survived something and the fact that it did not kill me is a great education. That does not mean that there are things that I wouldn’t change or do differently, because they most certainly are, but that choice is based on what I have learned and I may not have learned it, if I hadn’t gone through it, so???

There is great power in questions. And have you ever noticed how simple questions, often grow into complicated, profound and life changing questions, if we toil with them long enough? I mean think about this one “4 word question” and the power it has to shape our lives, if we would just use it consistently and honestly to evaluate the direction, purpose and decisions of our moment by moment daily living.

So whatever you are facing, if you really want to find fulfillment and experience happiness, I think this is a question we need to ask and answer in order to best guide the direction of our decision making. Here’s the question: ‘IS IT WORTH IT?”

I mean think about it and you will realize this question applies to about everything we will ever face or have to deal with. Should I eat the piece of cake after dinner? Do I give up on my dream relationship and move on to someone or something else? Do I take the promotion? Do we buy the house? Do I really need the car? Should I buy the outfit? And on and on we can go with all of the questions of life that are asked, but very often left unanswered.

“IS IT WORTH IT?” has the power to make us think. It has the power to make us take the time to process and really make a decision rather than just bounce through life like the little steel ball in a pinball machine.

I challenge you to take some time to think about some of the questions you need to think through in your life. In fact why not take out your journal and dedicate a page to writing down questions that you need to give some time and space to? With those questions in hand and in mind, now begin to ask yourself: IS IT WORTH IT? I think you will really be surprised at the clarity this will bring, if you will just be honest with yourself. And I think it’s much more effective to ask “Is it worth it?” on the front end, rather than “Was it worth it?” on the back end. Give it a try and see if it doesn’t make a difference, I mean – IS IT WORTH IT?

Change Your Why To What And Move On!

Sometimes it just seems like it does not matter what you do, the world is just lined up against you. You get up with a good attitude, begin to take all the steps to head your life in a right direction and “BAM” out of nowhere you get blindsided once again with stuff you feel is totally out of your control.

So many of the people I talk to on a daily basis really do want to do better and live a more fulfilled life, but it just seems that no matter how hard they try, carefully they plan or how organized they become, life just seems to find a way of sticking it to them.

You may be one of those folks and trust me when I tell you that I can most definitely relate. I mean, I really do have the best of intentions. I like to think I have a pretty incredible work ethic and a tenacity to stick with it, no matter what, but sometimes life just seems to get too hard, especially when I seem to keep taking blow after blow after blow.

I have learned that when my life gets to this place, the first question, becomes the reoccurring question and before I know it, I have dug myself a grave. The question we tend to ask that gets us into such a mess is: “Why is this happening to me?” and the problem with the question is that it puts all the focus into the wrong place – me!

If you really want to succeed and experience blessings in this life, then you need to not only ask questions, but make sure you are asking the right questions. If we will just change our “why” question into a “what” question, we will be amazingly surprised at what a difference it will begin to make in our attitude and through our attitude with our life and living.

If you are going to ask and answer a question, then make sure it’s the right one. Instead of asking “Why is this happening to me?” Ask – “WHAT IS THIS TRYING TO TEACH ME?” It is the answer to this question that has the potential to set us free to be blessed in incredible ways. This question takes the focus off of me and puts it on the lesson I need to learn and once I learn this lesson, I am on my way to the better I was created for.

So my encouragement for today is to change your “WHY?” into a “WHAT?” and grow on! Trust me, you will be glad you did…