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Ten Action Steps To Deal With Heavy Heartedness!

Life is a journey that is filled with moments of joy, triumph, and love, but it can also bring about periods of sadness, grief, and emotional heaviness. When your heart feels burdened, it’s essential to acknowledge those feelings and take proactive steps towards healing and finding the lightness you were created for. In the following pragraphs, we will explore some very practical steps we can take to help ourselves to navigate through the difficult and heavy times of life.

1. ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR EMOTIONS!

The first step towards lightening a heavy heart is recognizing and accepting your emotions. It’s normal to feel sadness, grief, or even anger at times. By acknowledging these feelings, you validate your own experiences and open the door to healing. You have to know the feeling to know why the feeling is there and with this knowledge you will find wisdom in dealing with whatever it is that you have to deal with.

2. PRACTICE SELF COMPASSION!

Be kind to yourself. Treat yourself with the same care and understanding you would offer a close friend. Self-compassion involves acknowledging your pain without judgment and offering yourself support and comfort. We tend to beat up on ourselves and often become our very own worst enemy. Show yourself some love, mercy and grace.

3. SEEK SUPPORT!

Share your feelings with someone you trust, whether it’s a friend, family member, or therapist. Talking about your emotions can provide relief and a fresh perspective. Sometimes, merely expressing what’s on your mind can alleviate some of the heaviness. I have often told folks that I am counseling or coaching that it is important every now and then to “unload the truck”. You were not created to carry everything around with you for always, so unload what you need to, so you can load up with what you really need.

4. ENGAGE IN MINDFUL MEDITATION!

Mindfulness practices, such as meditation, can help you stay present in the moment and reduce stress. Taking time for mindfulness can create a sense of calm, allowing you to process your emotions in a healthier way. I like to refer to this as taking time for SOLITUDE. We need to get quiet, just breathe and learn to enjoy the stillness and silence.

5. EXERCISE AND MOVE YOUR BODY!

Exercise has a profound impact on mental well-being. Engaging in physical activities like walking, jogging, or yoga releases endorphins, which are known as “feel-good” hormones. These chemicals can help alleviate feelings of sadness and promote a sense of well-being. It does not have to be anything hard core, just get up and take a walk outside or take some time to stretch your body out like you used to when you were a kid reaching for the stars.

6. EXPRESS YOURSELF CREATIVELY!

Art, music, and writing can be powerful outlets for processing emotions. Engaging in creative expression allows you to channel your feelings into something tangible, providing a sense of release and relief. God has gifted all of His children with some form of self expression, figure out yours and use it regurlarly.

7. PRACTICE GRATITUDE!

Even during challenging times, there are often small moments of beauty and positivity. Cultivating gratitude by acknowledging and appreciating these moments can shift your perspective and help you find moments of lightness. We often get so distracted by the bad that we fail to appreciate the good. No matter how bad it gets, there is always good. Look for and say thank you for the good, because this redirects your spirit toward God, which is exactly where it needs to be.

8. SET REALISTIC GOALS!

Breaking down your challenges into manageable steps can make them feel less overwhelming. Setting realistic goals and celebrating small achievements can give you a sense of accomplishment and motivation. Figure out what you have to do, make a plan and then do what you can.

9. NURTURE YOUR WELL BEING!

Taking care of your body can have a positive impact on your emotional well-being. Ensure you get enough sleep, eat nourishing foods, and engage in activities that promote relaxation and rejuvenation. Self Care is not a bad thing, it is a necessary thing and if you don’t take care of you, there might not be a you to take care of others.

10. EMBRACE CHANGE AND GROWTH!

Remember that feelings of heaviness are part of the human experience, and they do not define you. In other words: It’s a normal part of life and living. Embracing change and seeking growth through adversity can lead to profound personal development. Do what you can about what you can and then trust God through the rest for His best.

When your heart feels heavy, it’s crucial to remember that you are not alone, and there are ways to find lightness and healing. By acknowledging your emotions, seeking support, and engaging in self-care practices, you can navigate through these difficult moments and emerge stronger and more resilient than ever. Remember, healing is a journey, and it’s okay to take it one step at a time, because your ultimate destination is blessing…

What Is A Sabbath And Why Do I Need One?

The Bible commands us to remember the Sabbath Day and keep it holy. The concept of the Sabbath, a day of rest and reflection, is deeply embedded in various religious traditions around the world. In the Abrahamic faiths, particularly Judaism and Christianity, the Sabbath holds immense importance and is an important part of the foundation that everything else is built upon. Today I want to talk about some of the reasons behind God’s establishment of the Sabbath and spend a little time thinking about the sabbath’s enduring relevance, especially in the hustle and bustle of the contemporary society we live in today!

Sabbath Commemorates Creation

One of the primary reasons God instituted the Sabbath is to commemorate the creation of the universe as described in the Book of Genesis. According to the Bible, God created the world in six days and rested on the seventh day. By observing the Sabbath, believers are reminded of God’s creative power and the sanctity of all life. Rest is not a bad thing, it is a necessary thing. All of us should build rest into our lives. Rest allows time for the resetting of our mind, re-energizing of our body and revival of our spirit.

Sabbath Is A Time For Spiritual Renewal and Reflection

The Sabbath provides a designated time for individuals to disconnect from the demands of everyday life and focus on their spiritual well-being. It allows meaningful time for introspection, meditation, and a deeper connection with the Divine. This period of rest rejuvenates the soul and fosters a sense of inner peace. Our lives discover their greater meaning through the discipline of a sabbath.

Sabbath Helps To Build Community & Strengthen Family Bonds

The Sabbath encourages getting together for worship and growing family togetherness. It provides an opportunity for families and communities to gather, share meals, and engage in meaningful conversations and meaningful fellowship. This communal aspect strengthens social bonds and nurtures a sense of belonging, which all of God’s creation needs.

Sabbath Teaches Us To Resist The Tyranny of Work

In a world driven by productivity and materialism, the Sabbath serves as a counterbalance. It reminds individuals that their worth is not solely determined by their work or achievements. Taking a day of rest acknowledges the inherent value of each person and their need for spiritual and emotional nourishment. It is one of the greatest ways to take on and take out the attack of our ego.

Sabbath Promotes Physical And Mental Well-Being

Regular rest is crucial for physical health and mental well-being. The Sabbath encourages individuals to prioritize self-care, allowing them to recharge and face the challenges of the week ahead with renewed vigor. It is very possible to burn yourself out and then you are literally good for nothing.

Sabbath Encourages Us To Practice Gratitude

Observing the Sabbath fosters a sense of gratitude for the blessings in one’s life. It prompts individuals to reflect on the abundance they have received and acknowledge the source of their blessings. This gratitude cultivates a positive outlook and a deeper appreciation for life. The old Gospel hymn says to count your blessings and name them one by one…

Sabbath Sets a Moral and Ethical Standard

The Sabbath emphasizes the importance of ethical behavior and justice. It calls believers to reflect on their actions and consider how they can contribute to a more compassionate and just society. This moral reflection extends beyond the Sabbath, influencing daily conduct. It is amazing how just slowing down and getting quiet will allow the mind to find solutions that were there all along.

The establishment of the Sabbath by God carries profound spiritual, communal, and ethical significance. It serves as a timeless reminder of our connection to the divine, the importance of rest and reflection, and the value of human relationships. In a fast-paced world, the Sabbath stands as a bright light of tranquility and a continual source of spiritual nourishment, offering respite and renewal to all who take the time to observe it by putting it into practice.

It’s All Good!

Many years ago, one of my best friends tuned his back on me, stabbed me in the back multiple times and began the unraveling of a life that I had spent all of my life trying to build and grow. The confusion, heartache and stress that it brought into my life, ultimately brought me to a place of just wanting to die. I asked him multiple times what was going on, what had I done in an attempt to find out how I might could fix what was obviously very broken. I never found out the answers to any of the thousands of questions that I had and eventually that became okay, because at the end of the day – that’s life.

As I sit here this morning, thinking about how grateful I am for the blessings that God has poured out upon my life, I can’t help but think back to those very dark times when I really didn’t care if I made it though another day or not. While I did not want to live, because the frustration, heartache and pain was just too much, God never left me. His presence was always with me, holding me and keeping me safe from myself. God used a lot of different things and people to help put the broken pieces of my life back together again. I am sure that to others I appeared broken, confused, lost and probably best just forgotten, but to God this “ole boy” was a different story.

Only a small handful of people really know the struggle between light and darkness that I was engaged in and of those that would say that they did, most of those people did nothing to help me, instead they looked down their noses in judgement and speculated in their gossip. It’s sometimes seems that others get their good feelings for themselves in the misery of others, which makes absolutely no sense to me, but I am sure that I have been guilty of the same.

At some point, the God, Who never left me, helped me to find my way out of the darkness and into His marvelous light. All of my life, I have witnessed God doing amazing and beautiful things through ordinary people. I now have a better understanding of how God uses the broken to bring blessing and it has changed the way I live by changing the way I see life, others, myself and God.

While I was lost in the darkness, wandering around trying to make sense out of the senseless and discover the purpose which I had lost somewhere along the way, God was preparing me to receive a gift, a new and improved outlook which reminds me that “God Gives Beauty For Ashes!”

To appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes,the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness;that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the LORD,that he might be glorified. -Isaiah 61:3

My point is this: Whatever is going on in your life at this particular time – EMBRACE IT! In my ole country boy way of putting things, I would just have to say: “It’s All Good!” It is true that God uses even the bad for our good as we love and trust Him. Life is probably not going to work out the way you think it should, no matter how good your thoughts and plan might be. Things will happen. Some days the sun will shine on you and some days the rain will fall, but remember this: There is a God, Who loves you and who has a plan to bless you. According to that plan, He will use even the bad for your good as you love and trust Him…