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The Brotherhood Of The Leaf!

My Cigar Journey!

Everyone who makes a journey into the cigar world has a different experience. For me, it was a special occasion here or there, but never really a serious pursuit. This past year, the wife of a good friend passed away and the evening after her funeral, I went to his house to see how he was doing. He was a cigar smoker and offered me one and we enjoyed a good cigar and a great conversation. Over the next couple of weeks, we would visit and share a premium cigar and meaningful conversation. Our friendship grew into brotherhood fairly quickly and I had a new hobby that has opened up a world of connections, friendships and great conversations.

It was not long after that when I ran into a phrase that describes perfectly what I had been experiencing in my cigar journey – “BROTHERHOOD OF THE LEAF”. The term “Brotherhood of the Leaf” evokes images of camaraderie, tradition, and a shared passion for the art of cigar smoking. This brotherhood transcends geographical boundaries, social classes, and even generations, uniting aficionados in their love for one of the world’s oldest and most storied indulgences: the cigar.

With that phrase in mind, I got the idea to start a group called Brotherhood Of The Leaf F3 – Faith, Fellowship, Fine Cigars, which would sponsor opportunities to get together in various locations to grow together while enjoying this very special past time.

A Brief History of Cigars

To understand the Brotherhood of the Leaf, one must first appreciate the rich history of cigar smoking. Cigars have been enjoyed for centuries, with their origins traced back to indigenous peoples in the Caribbean and Mesoamerica. The introduction of cigars to Europe by explorers like Christopher Columbus in the late 15th century sparked a global appreciation that continues to this day.

The cigar became a symbol of sophistication and leisure, often associated with important historical figures, statesmen, and celebrities. This cultural significance laid the foundation for a community bound by a common appreciation for the craftsmanship and experience of cigar smoking.

The Essence of the Brotherhood

At its core, the Brotherhood of the Leaf is about more than just smoking cigars; it is about the experience and the connections forged over a shared ritual. Members of this fraternity often gather in cigar lounges, clubs, and at special events, where they exchange stories, knowledge, and, of course, cigars. The act of lighting up a cigar becomes a ceremonial event, fostering a sense of belonging and mutual respect.

The Rituals and Traditions

One of the hallmarks of the Brotherhood of the Leaf is its rich tapestry of rituals and traditions. These rituals might include:

Cigar Selection: The process of choosing a cigar is almost sacred. Aficionados take into consideration the origin, blend, and age of the tobacco. This selection process is often accompanied by discussions about personal preferences and the nuances of different cigars.

Lighting Ceremony: Lighting a cigar is done with care and precision. Members often use wooden matches or cedar spills to avoid imparting unwanted flavors from gas lighters. This act is slow and deliberate, reflecting the meditative nature of cigar smoking.

Smoking Etiquette: The etiquette of cigar smoking is respected within the brotherhood. This includes the pace at which one smokes, the manner in which the ash is managed, and the shared understanding of the communal and solitary aspects of the experience.

The Social Fabric

The Brotherhood of the Leaf is inclusive, drawing members from all walks of life. Business executives, artists, laborers, and enthusiasts all find common ground in their love for cigars. This diversity enriches the community, fostering an environment where different perspectives are appreciated and celebrated.

The Global Community

While the term “Brotherhood of the Leaf” might suggest a primarily male fraternity, the community is increasingly inclusive, with women finding their place among the ranks of cigar aficionados. Organizations and social media groups dedicated to women who enjoy cigars are growing, adding to the diversity and richness of the community.

Cigar Culture in the Modern Age

In the modern era, the Brotherhood of the Leaf has adapted to contemporary lifestyles while maintaining its core values. The digital age has enabled cigar lovers to connect through online forums, social media, and on the fly opportunities to fire up a stick together. These platforms allow members to share reviews, tips, and personal experiences, keeping the spirit of the brotherhood alive and vibrant.

It’s So Much More Than Smoking!

The Brotherhood of the Leaf is more than just a group of people who enjoy cigars; it is a testament to the enduring appeal of tradition, craftsmanship, and fellowship. In a fast-paced world, the act of smoking a cigar offers a moment to slow down and enjoy a life of reflection and connection, linking the past with the present and bringing together individuals from all walks of life. As this fraternity continues to grow and evolve, it remains a beacon of camaraderie and a celebration of one of life’s fine pleasures…

As Mark Twain once said: Be sure and smoke in moderation – one cigar at a time…

-MJHarvell

A New Lesson In Friendships!

A few months ago, I started a series of messages on Friendship!  We focused on friendship with God and friendship with others!  I love and appreciate all of my friends, but realize that I have not and I do not always show this in the way that I should.  It’s not that I don’t care or that I am not interested.  It’s just that, if I am your friend, then I am your friend and nothing is going to change that on my part.  (This is how I think in my head and heart and feel that if you know me, then you should know this about me!)  What I am learning is that while I may have an expectation that my friends accept and believe that, some of my friends need continuing reassurance.  (They may know it, but not believe it or understand it!)

When I first began to realize this need that some of my friends had, my first thought was that they are not much of a friend if they don’t know me and believe me as I am.  (I have other friends that get it and it’s not a problem for them!)  And then I slowly began to realize that everybody has their on perception.  I should be able to expect that they would work to give me the benefit of the doubt, but if they don’t or won’t, then I still have the responsibility and obligation as a friend to try to help my friend see, know and experience the real me.  Some would say:  “They are not really your friend, if they have that attitude!”  But the issue is not their being my friend.  The issue is my being their friend.  I am not responsible for their actions or reactions!  I am responsible for my own.  And even when people who say they are friends are not friendly, I have a responsibility and obligation to continue to be friendly, because that’s what friends do!  (Many times all of us think we are being or doing, but we are fooling ourselves and that is why someone in the friendship has to be willing to go the extra mile or the friendship will die!)

God is our friend and we don’t always treat God the way that He should be treated, but He patiently gives us time, space, knowledge and wisdom to figure it out!  He does this because He is our friend and wants us to be a friend back!  So, before you write somebody off, make sure that you are doing your part as a friend.  It’s a blessing for you, them and everybody.  And the best part is that it brings glory to God when we get this right!  And it is really cool, when you get to travel that extra mile together!

Thank you for being my friend and for reading this blog!  I hope it challenges, encourages and blesses you!