“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.” – Proverbs 31:10 (KJV)
Now I know this verse talks about a virtuous woman, but hang with me, fellas—this one’s for all of us. Because what God’s really spotlighting here is character that counts… not charm, not charisma, not clout—but virtue. The kind of deep-down, rock-solid goodness that money can’t buy and the world can’t fake.
Ladies, when the Bible says your worth is far above rubies, it’s Heaven’s way of reminding you that your value isn’t tied to how many likes you get, how you look in the mirror, or how loud the world applauds. You’re rare, radiant, and real—and the Lord sees you.
And men? Don’t check out. This verse calls you to be the kind of man who can recognize and honor that kind of worth. And not only that—but to mirror it. To walk in integrity, faithfulness, and grit. To be the kind of man who doesn’t just admire virtue in others but lives it out himself.
So whether you’re the one living the Proverbs 31 life or learning how to value it—don’t settle for surface. Go for the real gems. They might not shine the loudest—but they last the longest.
💎 True worth isn’t found in the spotlight—it’s found in the soul.
“Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
I don’t know who needs to hear this right now, but real love—God’s kind of love—isn’t flimsy. It’s not the kind of love that walks away when life gets hard or people get messy. No sir. Real love stands its ground. It bears the weight of disappointment, believes the best even when it hasn’t been earned, keeps hoping even when the night’s been long, and endures through the kind of storms that would break lesser things.
The world will tell you that love is a feeling—but the Word says it’s a choice. A gritty, grace-filled, gospel kind of choice. This verse reminds us that love doesn’t run out when it runs into trouble. It holds on. It lifts up. It keeps going.
Why? Because that’s the kind of love God shows us every single day. He bears with us. He believes in us. He hopes for us. And He endures with us, never giving up—never letting go.
So today, friend, let that kind of love fill you. Let it flow through you. And when you feel like giving up… remember, love never does.
I’ve spent most of my life trying to earn something that was never meant to be earned…
Because of things that happened to me when I was just a child, I learned early on to believe a lie: that love and acceptance had to be worked for. Please don’t get me wrong, in a lot of ways, I had an amazing childhood, but because of a split family, I had family that wanted nothing to do with me. They made excuses as to why, but the truth at the end of the day was they didn’t even really try. I grew up wondering what was wrong with me? Why didn’t they want me? Was there anything I could do? This planted something deep inside of me that I had no idea was even there. This idea that if I could just do enough… be enough… help enough… then maybe someone would want me, see me, choose me.
That lie shaped a lot of who I became. It made me into someone who would push myself past empty just to fill someone else’s cup. Someone who would neglect my own soul in hopes that someone else might love me a little more. It was until after the midlife of my life after I had lived what was probably over half of my life that I discovered what a mess I was and the beginning of understanding why. Although I have understanding, it still creeps into my thoughts and living. And while there is a part of me that knows better, it is my own struggle of the flesh and spirit that is almost a daily battle that at times leaves me stranded and feeling so alone.
I still catch myself trying too hard most days and getting in my own way. I often say: I am my own worst enemy!” I like to think I am learning, but I must admit that some days the evidence is just not there. I say learning, because I have such a long way to go. So here is what I am learning and maybe it will help somebody else too.
You can live a lifetime trying to win the approval of people… even the ones closest to you… and still come up empty. Because what you’re really hungry for is not their love—it’s His. No other person can give you what you really need, just like you cannot give to any other person what they really need. The reality is, that in the flesh, we will all keep failing one another, because the flesh gets in the way of our Spirit and it is going to be that way until Jesus comes and makes it right.
The only love that truly satisfies is the love that doesn’t have to be earned and that is the love of Jesus. Steady. Unchanging. Enough. You don’t have to prove yourself. You don’t have to perform. You are already loved—completely and just as you are.
Michael Joe Harvell 