The fourth of “The Five Love Languages” as descried by Dr Gary Chapman is “Acts Of Service“.  This is when we do something for someone that we know they would like for us to do for them!  We are not doing the act of service to get them to do something in return for us.  We are not doing the act of service to try and manipulate them.  We are doing the act of service as an expression of our love and appreciation for what they mean to our lives!

You may think that you are loving those around you with an incredible and amazing love, but the truth is:  It really does not matter what you think!  It not your thinking, but their perception that really matters!  If “Acts Of Service” is the love activity that rings your bell, please remember that it is not about demanding that something be done.  It’s all about making request!  Love does not demand!  In fact, when you make a demand, you take away the other person’s opportunity to respond in and with love.

A great way for couples to figure this one out, is to agree to make a request list.  Each person should make a list of five things that the other person could do that would help with the expression and feeling of love.  You then swap list!  Now you know what you can do to help the other person to feel loved!  Remember:  It’s not that you have to do these things, it’s that you get to do these things!

A good way to think about “Acts Of Service” is to think about dating.  Remember what it was like back when you and your special someone was dating.  You were willing to do all kinds of things to help that person to feel and know that they were special to you.  Ask yourself: What will make them happy and then do it!  What is one more way that you can say “I love you”?  Think about it and do something special to communicate your love today!